Measles/Rubella….

First I gotta say that I´m sorry  I had been away all this week and didn´t upload any post but Victoria got Measles or Rubella (I don’t remember very good the doctor diagnosis  is hard for me to difference them both because i never got them before and the kids were destroying the doctors´s office while he was explaining the differences between both deceases…)

She got her MMR vaccinations 3 weeks ago and She didn’t reacted good at all to this shot. At first she was in a lot of pain i couldn’t touch her little body to carry her or to breastfeed her, she will cry a lot and i could tell the pain in her eyes. Then 2 full days she got this horrible fever from 39´s to 40.3·C and it wasn’t fun at all i got very scared specially at night time. I know the risk of her don’t getting vaccinated is bigger than facing secondary effects from the shot..  After 3 days she developed this rash on her face and arms but only lasted for 2 days and then it disappeared, so I was happy this nightmare was over and we finally put all of this behind…

But after 3 weeks of her vaccinations, when I’m putting her pj´s on to go bed, i notice this rash in her belly and in her face, I’m wondering what is this from but I decided if by the morning it get worst I´ll take her to the doctor.. next morning the rash was so red in her face, chest, belly, back so I took her to the doctor. He confirms my fear is possible that before 1 month of getting the MMR shot some babies will actually develop the virus of rubella or measles and Victoria is one of them, she got it… He gave her two different medicines for the itchiness and the rash so that should make her feel better.

Since then She only wants to be in my arms and she will go play once in a while with Ethan and laugh a lot so she’s keeping me really busy. She’s acting very spoiled but is expected she’s sick. Sometimes she will laid down in the floor I’m guessing to ease the itchiness, she cries a lot, i can tell the  difference in her from her normal behaviour , but i hope this doesn’t last for to long..

I´m not looking forward to her second shot but still I will take her. My goal as a mom is to keep my babies safe and sound and even if I hate when they cry from the vaccination shots and the fever they can get after them I think is better than they getting a horrible disease that can compromise permanently they health or there life style in the future

 

 

 

What is your biggest weakness?

My biggest weakness is my kids and my husband and they are also my strength but I wanna talk about material objects that leave me breathless

Shoes, this has to be my biggest obsession I just can’t have enough shoes and believe me this is not a new thing, I remember since always getting exited at early age choosing and buying my shoes I never had enough pairs and I never will; sometimes I tell myself: Bianca this is the last pair of shoes you will buy this season, you don’t need any more you have lots at home (some are still brand new) and then after 1 week I see another pair that makes me fall in love again and I have to buy it and then I tell myself “no more shoes Bianca” and again in few days I see this awesome sale for shoes that I will not wear until another season but I just can’t help it is an awesome price so I have to get them.

Purses, When I just think I have enough purses to survive, they release the new bags for the new season… God help me I must have it, I already might have one that looks so similar according to my husband,  the difference could be in the shape, but I tell myself: no you really don’t need that bag, you want it, don’t buy it! and then I will be awake at night thinking in the purse ❤️, yes! How pathetic is that? But that’s how it works,  I will be thinking the pros of having her: if is small it will be perfect for when we go out to run some errands so I don’t have to carry a big one and the kids, if is big it will be perfect for when we go away for the weekend and I can carry a little bit more for the kids and I, if is a bigger one special to carry the laptop, the iPhone, the iPad all of them together is perfect for when we travel on vacations. Or if is just a medium size bag is Thats the perfect size for me! Next thing will be the color you can never have enough purses that are with or black or blue etc in different sizes that’s very important, you  always will need a variety of purses to coordinate with your outfits and the places you go….

Cloth. Is not only a basic need for me,  is a whole  experience that makes me happy, it must be the endorfines released what makes me want to go and buy cloth almost every day it doesn’t matter if is for myself, my husband or my kids it just makes me feel very very happy. Being in the store and look around at every piece of clothing, think about the possibilities of each piece I will buy etc.. I could spend hours at the store with no noticing the time, and sometimes I will leave the store disappointed with out a thing…

I have other favourite items like make up and accessories but they are not s big deal, and that’s because make up I mostly will buy when I’m running out and I also have my favourites trade marks for each item. accesories I only buy them if they are easy to wear and hard to be destroyed by my kids

What about your favourite items?

losing weight fast after birth is it a social pressure?

We were pregnant for 9 months and social media is making us believe that after 1 month of giving birth we should go back to our original or at least be 70% back to our pre-pregnant weigh or at least is what I have perceived.

But if it took us 40 weeks (sometimes less, sometimes a little bit more) to grow a beautiful miracle inside of us with uterus, placenta, breast fat, etc which weights 25-30 extra pounds in our body and I’m not even talking about those crazy cravings that some of us experienced. For example I remember craving ketchup chips so badly everyday and cheeseburgers in my second pregnancy… Yes I know! Not the most healthy cravings but believe me, if I was given the choice I would have chosen lettuce or broccoli, but it wasn’t possible. So it doesn’t mean that I wasn’t having healthy meals too for a healthy growing baby 💪. 

Anyways, how is it possible to loose all of that weight in only 4 weeks, when the body hasn’t completely healed on this lapse of time? It doesn’t matter if baby arrived via c-section or was a vaginal delivery that tends to leave you with painful episiotomy stitches that doesn’t  allow you to sit or walk like in my previous experiences…

Some people believe in going to a dietician to have full control of their weight gain during pregnancy but not me, just if you have a special health condition right, like diabetes or a “health problem” like preeclampsia, or you are a supermodel that must look skinny so you don’t lose your job that will support economically your child. Otherwise I think we should enjoy our pregnancy and eat what we like and obviously also get heathy meals for the perfect development of growing fetuses. And please that doesn’t mean eat like a pig and win way more than the healthy charts your doctor will recommend you. But if pregnancy is something we will experience 1, 2x, 3x in average in our lifetime why should we suffer and starve? Its ridiculous. 

Other people believe that breastfeeding will make you magically lose your pregnancy weight and sometimes more, well this might be the truth for some moms out there, but unfortunately for few of us it didn’t work out that way.

So in my opinion, if your breastfeeding or not, make healthy meal choices and do some exercise if you have the time, if your not chasing your toddlers. Its the best exercise ever in my personal experience, and the scale will start to pointing lower and in reality in 4-12 months the weight should be gone completely. That is perfectly fine and normal, don’t let a person that gets paid millions for looking good all the time bring you down for how magically she got back her beautiful body. No that’s not magic, she was sadly counting calories during her pregnancy or on some sort of nutritional plan supervised by an expert. And exercising like crazy as soon as her doctor allowed her after giving birth. Maybe there was a tummy tuck, who knows.

All women deserve respect that is not based on the way there body looks; go buy yourself a nice dress, a nice pair of shoes anything than makes you feel as special as you are ❤️  and stop feeling that you must lose the pregnancy weight as soon as baby pops out that is just ridiculous. 

The 5 worst places where I had nursed my children

1 In the car. This seriously has to be  such a bad place to nurse, Imagine stopping every here and there just to jump in the back seat and breastfeed baby; the worst time was doing it on the snowy highway on a drive  that turned out to be almost 7 hours long instead of 5. For some reason Ethan and Victoria always  got hungry in the car like always, they still are…

2 In the airplane. Ok this was expected to happen if we were traveling and taking 3 connecting flights, easy job using a blanket covering baby and people don’t mind my business I’m  really starting to feel confident , the room is tight but we will make it work until of course baby complains he doesn’t want to eat with a blanket on his face… So that was the biggest challenge but after the 3rd, 4th, 5th and 6th airplaine  I became a pro 😎 the worst part was some group of 5 perverts that where traveling together in the front seat from ours and keep turning and looking and making faces and signals beetwen them  making me very uncomfortable, the worst part was after we landed and I was walking to the bathroom to change Ethan’s diaper they where walking towards me,  yes again I had to see  them in this hallway! they gave me this nasty look walking towards me and making this loud suction and kiss sound and then they laughed, God I swear I felt raped …

3. After giving them their vaccination shots at the community centre, any baby after having received the needle or better said the needles they will obviously cry and the best way to comfort them is giving them breastmilk, if you could only could do it in the same room where they receive their shots instead of doing it in the waiting area where there are lot of people that seem to get very uncomfortable while you breastfeed, so I would have love love loved to have a curtain or a designated room just for breastfeeding but instead I had to go to the bathroom and do it there, its sad but true.

4. In front of friends or relatives that doesn’t have a clue about the world of breastfeeding and the amazing benefits. Yes I heard all kind of ignorant comments like “You should eat first baby can wait” , no , any mother knows that baby always come first. “you should stop breastfeeding already he’s 5 month old”, why should I stop if it’s recommended to do it for as long as possible? “baby doesn’t have enough teeth because you breastfeed”, ok this is just ridiculous baby doesn’t get all his teeth yet because nature will decide when to do it is just a matter of time but if he was 18 month old I would be worried, “he can’t be possibly hungry already”, of course he can be hungry, babies eat on demand, the frequency will be determine by them- remember that breastmilk is their only meal and liquid, “he’s hungry because you only breastfeed him”, no he’s hungry because he is human and all humans get hungry (sarcastic voice), “give him water”, of course not, if you give water to a baby at such an early age he will feel his stomach is full, he will breastfeed less, he will lose weight, and his growth can be compromised, “your breast must have so many stretch marks because they look bigger now”, ok as a matter of fact yes breasts grow with pregnancy  and yes they will grow more if you decide to breastfeed, but believe me my breasts don’t have eaven 1 stretch mark, and i can keep going on forever with these kind of comments that in my opinion are better to ignore and just laugh about them.

5. In the hospital, at the gynecologist office, at a coffee shop, at baby stores and at any other establishment where it is a certainty that they will have customers that breastfeed, and that they need an area to brastfeed so we don’t make uncomfortable other people, or where we can be comfortable. But instead we have to do it in the bathroom, I don’t know any person that likes to eat in the bathroom or worse that enjoys standing up inside a bathroom holding a baby for 15 minutes or more trying not to breathe and breastfeed at the same time.

Are society is still  far from helping or supporting breastfeeding moms and support is one of the keys to succeed, let’s help each other and instead of bringing down breastfeeding moms with ridiculous comments just don’t say nothing sometimes if we don’t have nothing positive to say don’t say anything breastfeed is already hard by itself so don’t make it harder  for us moms and if you are going to open a business or own one maybe designate a small area for moms that need to breastfeed it doesn’t have to be something spectacular what about a comfy chair and a  separation like a courtine or a small wall that make other costumers don’t feel weird and everybody is happy we have ramps for wheelchairs, we have high chairs for babys why don’t we get a small breastfeeding area for moms?

Breastfeeding

Any mom that had breastfeed before or is currently breastfeeding knows how painful, difficult  and hard it can be, the first challenge I had with my 2 kids was the poor latching… It will take around 15-20 minutes of tears of desperation from both of us: a hungry baby and me a frustrated mom trying to give her baby the best meal that exists in nature and it was almost impossible! Until nurses suggested a nipple shield! Finally an answer to my prayers, both of my babys successfully breastfeed thanks to that amazing invention called “the nipple shield” it’s a transparent sylicon shield that goes on your nipple and it helps baby to latch better and just that.. I still got the normal pain, dryness and bleeding nipples, but who cares that last only for about 1 month and  after that we got so used to breastfeed that it wasn’t painful anymore! in fact it became a beautiful bond between baby and I, it was and still is our special moment of the day where we can take a break, she can feed and I hold her in my arms and steare at her and feel grateful for her health and  get amazed that my body wasn’t only capable of grow life but also sustained it! 

Breastfeed is not easy, my son Ethan who now is 2.5 year old breastfed for exactly 15 months and I had to quit because it was becoming very painful for the sensitive breast due to pregnancy with my second baby Victoria and I really suffered so bad being pregnant and breastfeeding for 2 months until I couldn’t do it anymore… Then with Victoria we had been currently breastfeeding for about 13 months, it hasn’t been easy she still wakes up at night every 2 hours and I’m living on zombie mood she’s already on solid food like any other baby on her age, but she is a bad eater so I can’t deny her her favorite meal the one I know for sure will keep her strong and with a good immune system. I’m not sure for how long I will breastfeed her but what I know for sure is that I’m very proud of myself that I had literally gave my best to this two, I quit smoking what it hasn’t been easy at all but I keep telling myself just one day at the time and as soon I’m done breastfeeding I will smoke again… Am I going to smoke again? Maybe.. Is the smart decision to make? No, is not but it had help me to keep my will of giving them free smoke milk everyday. 

Breastfeed a second child is hard on the first because they get jealous I can see Ethan’s eyes stearing at me like if I’m excluding  him from something that only involves his sister and I and sometimes he asked for breastmilk and the solution was giving him his bottle at the same time I’m breastfeeding Victoria and problem solved the three of us are content

Breastfeeding is not easy but once you have done it is one of the biggest satisfactions you can get in  your life! Is natural, you don’t  have to warm up bottles or wash them, is produce by your body from nature directly from the breast to ther mouth and believe me I had grown healthy and happy kids so far.

If you can’t breastfeed or choose to don’t do it that’s ok with me everybody have a different way to live life and I respect every mom out there just for the fact of growing beautiful life inside of them but now you tell me: Did you breastfeed your kids? Or are you currently breastfeeding? What has been your experiences and challenges breastfeeding?  I will be happy to hear them all 🙂

I will be talking about breastfeeding during this week for the breastfeeding week!